I would like to share this article with all of my beautiful readers, This article is about beauty
One sunny day, when my daughter was four years old, I found her lying on the grass in our garden gazing up at the bright blue sky. She had a big smile on her face.
“Hi sweetheart,” I said.
“Hi dad,” said Bo.
“What are you doing?”
“I’m feeling beautiful,” she replied.
“Wow, that sounds fun!”
“It is!” she said, “I love feeling beautiful and I try to feel it as much as I can.”
For four years I was the coach to the leadership team for Dove & the Real Beauty Campaign. Together with my team at Success Intelligence, I coached the President of Dove, ran workshops for the Global Leadership Team, hosted three annual Dove conferences, and travelled the world presenting seminars to the Dove community. The goal was simple: to help more women and girls feel beautiful everyday.
Dove’s research on The Truth About Beauty shows that although we have more beauty products on the planet than ever before, we are feeling less and less beautiful. Only 4% of women consider themselves beautiful. It’s a similar story for men too. In fact, recent research revealed that men privately worry more about their physical than women do.
I believe it is our birthright to feel beautiful. As children, feeling beautiful is natural. Just ask my daughter Bo! Something happens! As we grow up, our natural beauty is forgotten and obscured. And yet, our secret beauty (a term coined by the mystic Thomas Merton) remains, waiting to be recognized. How do we recognize our beauty?
The Beautiful Prayer
My favourite-ever prayer is by the Benedictine nun, Macrina Wiederkehr. I’ve written about this prayer in two of my books Loveability and Happiness NOW! I’ve prescribed it to hundreds and thousands of my people who’ve come to my workshops. It goes like this:
O God, help me to believe the truth about myself
no matter how beautiful it is!
The Beautiful Prayer, as I call it, is an invitation is to see yourself as you really are. To do this you have to stop judging yourself. Why? When you judge someone (including yourself), you see only your judgements. You can’t judge someone AND see who they are. It’s not possible. I firmly believe that if you pray this prayer and sit in meditation for five minutes afterwards, for 7 days, you would start to feel more beautiful again.
The Beautiful Affirmation
When I co-wrote Life Loves You with Louise Hay, we talked about mirror work and how difficult Louise found it initially. “Mirror work showed me how much I was in the habit of judging myself,” she told me. Louise persisted with her mirror play (as she liked to call it), and experienced a breakthrough.
“One day, I decided to try a little exercise,” [Louise told me]. “I looked in the mirror and said to myself, ‘I am beautiful and everybody loves me.’ Of course, I didn’t believe it at first, but I was patient with myself, and it soon felt easier. Then, for the rest of the day, I said to myself wherever I went, ‘I am beautiful and everybody loves me.’ This put a smile on my face. It was amazing how people reacted to me. Everyone was so kind. That day I experienced a miracle—a miracle of self-love.”
“I am beautiful and everybody loves me” is my favourite Louise Hay affirmation. I invite you to try this affirmation and see if you experience a miracle too.
The Beautiful Meditation
Beauty is not something to create; it is revealed to us when we stop judging. This beautiful Navajo Meditation (below) is an invitation to see beauty everywhere. How do we do this? In each moment, you are either judging or loving. When you judge, you see your judgments. When you love, you see beauty. Love is a training in vision, and the more you practice seeing life through the eyes of love, the more you will see beauty everywhere.
In beauty I walk
With beauty before me I walk
With beauty behind me I walk
With beauty above me I walk
With beauty around me I walk
I walk in beauty.
I wish you a beautiful day